WARNING: This is a rant. But a very true one everyone can learn from.
When someone does something you don't like-- and I don't mean just any someone.. a close friend, a significant other, or an immediate family member-- if you care about the relationship you have with that person, you should tell them.
It is terribly unfair to hold a grudge against someones actions when they don't even know that they've done anything wrong. Grudges create bitterness. And when that person realizes you are bitter, but doesn't understand why, it creates tension, anger, and stress. Then they may try to do everything they can to make that go away. So they look for things to do for you... or go out of their way to try and make you happy. Or try to fix the problems in your life. But instead, every little thing this person does irritates you because you are angry at them. You're stressed-- simply because you are holding a grudge against them and never allowed them a fair chance to fix things in the first place.
Grudges only make problems bigger. If you set out to fix problems right away-- rather than hold them against someone for a unbeknownst amount of time-- things tend to run much smoother.
Rant over.
