As pretty much the entire United States knows by now, the Supreme Court recently ruled the Defense of Marriage Act, which stated a union was solely between a man and a woman, as unconstitutional. This has opened of the possibility of gay marriage eventually becoming nationally legal. Obviously, this has stirred a lot of debate and conflict through out the nation.
Here's where I stand-- I don't care who you love. I don't care who you marry. I don't care who you kiss. I don't care who you bed. As long as you are happy.WHY should anyone care who someone else gives their heart to? It has NOTHING to do with you. It's not hurting you.
Fine, if you find it gross or whatever-- then don't do it. But don't be hateful toward those involved. They are not asking you to "be gay" with them. They are not forcing their views upon the "straight folk." They just want to be happy, like everyone else. Why can't we just allow that in peace? Why must society try to destroy every little speck of sunshine because it's not that they personally agree with?
You want to ban gay marriage? Why not ban interracial marriage while you're at it? How about unattractive people marrying extremely attractive people? Since when did love become based on appearances? Do you think love cares what people look like? Do you think love cares what gender you are? Love happens. That's just the way it is.
For those who think being gay is a choice-- I'm sure these people have chosen to be shunned by their families. I'm sure they chose to be beaten up. They chose to be made fun of and bullied. Yes... because that's the life any person would gladly choose. I think not. It is not a choice-- it's who they are. Get over it. They're not asking YOU to change. They're not asking YOU to be gay because they disagree with being straight. Can't you pay them the same respect?
There are dozens of levels of sexuality-- but I'll save that for another blog, another day. ;)
In conclusion, this goes out to the religious sects claiming that the LGBT community will all burn in Hell. Firstly, from a Christian point of view (because I am a Christian), yes the Bible says homosexuality is a sin. But according the Bible, so is divorce. So is greed. So is BITTERNESS. Among thousands of others. All things we as people are daily guilty of. So if sinning condemns us to Hell, there is not a soul that will not burn. God is forgiving. God loves everyone, no matter what. So don't sit there and say arrogant comments like "God hates gays." God does not hate. The Bible also says "love thy neighbor." You will be the one who is questioned on judgement day-- not the girl next door who married another woman. Do not treat people like garbage-- let everyone go about their own business, and you go about yours.
As a proper Christian, I was raised to accept everyone as they are. Is this the example you wish to set for your children? "They are bad people because they are in love and it doesn't fit the social standard." Or should you be teaching them to walk in God's shadow? I'm raising my daughter to accept people as they are.
And last I checked, we lived in a free country. If so many are willing to allow the government to decide who can and cannot be married, there's no telling what will come next.
Sunday, June 30, 2013
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
What's Wrong With Society?
You know what's wrong with society? Way too damn much.
Selfishness. Racism & prejudice. Ignorance. Youth violence. Rape. Hypocrisy. Abuse. Homelessness.
I try to remind myself day to day that there are more good people in this world than bad people. But it only gets more difficult each day. I despise the world my child is growing up in. I only hope that she will be one of the people to make the world a better place. I know that sounds cliche, but people have got to realize, OUR CHILDREN ARE THE FUTURE! What you raise today, whether it be angels, hell raisers, respectful, hateful, or whatever... that's what's going to be running the place tomorrow. Your child could make or break someone or a group of someones. Shouldn't we be focusing on raising our children to be good people? All the major problems with society are a product of raising!
Here's where I'm going to piss off some people.
Our "free country" is trying to take away our rights to discipline our children. All of these activists and anti-abuse societies are so... so... WRONG! There's a huge difference between a spanking and a beating, but try telling CPS that. If you so much as swat your child's hand with a witness, be warned... they'll be at your door in the blink of an eye! I got swatted enough times as a kid and guess what? I turned out perfectly fine. (Some people may debate that. Shut your mouth! LOL) You know what it did for me? It got my attention. And I assure you I respect my Momma like she's the Queen.
Here's another thing-- FOLLOW THROUGH. If you tell your kid not to do something or else... and they do it, you better do that "or else!" Because you know what happens? They learn real quick that Mommy and Daddy are a push-over. They know your threats are empty so they're just gonna keep on trucking and doing whatever their little hearts desire. If you don't teach them while they're young, they're going to grow up walking all over you.
DON'T GIVE IN! Yes, I know the whining and crying is annoying. And "Mom Mommy Mom Mother Mom Mom Mom!" drives you insane... but you CAN'T GIVE IN! If you give in, there's Mommy the push-over again! Kids are smart. They know if they whine enough, they'll get there way.
I'm not lying when I say ninety percent of the time, it takes only one "no" for my daughter to quit asking. Occasionally, she persists. But I don't give in. She doesn't win and she knows she won't ever win with me. She's spoiled but she's not rotten.
EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN. I'm not just talking about school. I teach her every day about how we can't have everything we want. She knows there are starving children in the world. She knows there are homeless people in the world. She knows there are some men who love men and some women who love women. She understands everyone is different. She knows there are bad people in the world. She also tries a food she doesn't like every time I make it because I taught her that her taste buds will change as she grows up. She offered to buy a crying girl a doll at the store the other day with her own money because she didn't want to see her unhappy. She's one of the most selfless people I know... and she's only six. The possibilities are endless.
Before someone explodes about how all kids are different... I know. Maybe this won't work with every kid. I've only got one, myself, so I don't know. But you can't give in to their demands. YOU are the parent, not them. This is true no matter how many kids you have. You chose to bring them in to this world, and it's your choice on how to raise them. Do it right. Teach them to be good people. Teach them it's okay to cry. It's okay to lose. It's okay to not have it all. It's okay to be different. They need a parent, not a friend.
It's OKAY. I've got your back. :) And so will your kids. They'll thank you when they're older.
Selfishness. Racism & prejudice. Ignorance. Youth violence. Rape. Hypocrisy. Abuse. Homelessness.
I try to remind myself day to day that there are more good people in this world than bad people. But it only gets more difficult each day. I despise the world my child is growing up in. I only hope that she will be one of the people to make the world a better place. I know that sounds cliche, but people have got to realize, OUR CHILDREN ARE THE FUTURE! What you raise today, whether it be angels, hell raisers, respectful, hateful, or whatever... that's what's going to be running the place tomorrow. Your child could make or break someone or a group of someones. Shouldn't we be focusing on raising our children to be good people? All the major problems with society are a product of raising!
Here's where I'm going to piss off some people.
Our "free country" is trying to take away our rights to discipline our children. All of these activists and anti-abuse societies are so... so... WRONG! There's a huge difference between a spanking and a beating, but try telling CPS that. If you so much as swat your child's hand with a witness, be warned... they'll be at your door in the blink of an eye! I got swatted enough times as a kid and guess what? I turned out perfectly fine. (Some people may debate that. Shut your mouth! LOL) You know what it did for me? It got my attention. And I assure you I respect my Momma like she's the Queen.
Here's another thing-- FOLLOW THROUGH. If you tell your kid not to do something or else... and they do it, you better do that "or else!" Because you know what happens? They learn real quick that Mommy and Daddy are a push-over. They know your threats are empty so they're just gonna keep on trucking and doing whatever their little hearts desire. If you don't teach them while they're young, they're going to grow up walking all over you.
DON'T GIVE IN! Yes, I know the whining and crying is annoying. And "Mom Mommy Mom Mother Mom Mom Mom!" drives you insane... but you CAN'T GIVE IN! If you give in, there's Mommy the push-over again! Kids are smart. They know if they whine enough, they'll get there way.
I'm not lying when I say ninety percent of the time, it takes only one "no" for my daughter to quit asking. Occasionally, she persists. But I don't give in. She doesn't win and she knows she won't ever win with me. She's spoiled but she's not rotten.
EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN. I'm not just talking about school. I teach her every day about how we can't have everything we want. She knows there are starving children in the world. She knows there are homeless people in the world. She knows there are some men who love men and some women who love women. She understands everyone is different. She knows there are bad people in the world. She also tries a food she doesn't like every time I make it because I taught her that her taste buds will change as she grows up. She offered to buy a crying girl a doll at the store the other day with her own money because she didn't want to see her unhappy. She's one of the most selfless people I know... and she's only six. The possibilities are endless.
Before someone explodes about how all kids are different... I know. Maybe this won't work with every kid. I've only got one, myself, so I don't know. But you can't give in to their demands. YOU are the parent, not them. This is true no matter how many kids you have. You chose to bring them in to this world, and it's your choice on how to raise them. Do it right. Teach them to be good people. Teach them it's okay to cry. It's okay to lose. It's okay to not have it all. It's okay to be different. They need a parent, not a friend.
It's OKAY. I've got your back. :) And so will your kids. They'll thank you when they're older.
Monday, June 10, 2013
It's All About Appearance
See that? ^^^^
It's all about appearance. At least, that's what society tries to tell us. While I agree appearance is important-- it's not everything. The world we live in today is so focused on what we look like that we've lost sight of what really matters-- what's inside of you.
You should always be kind, give more than you take, smile a lot, hold the door open for a stranger. Pay it forward. Being a good person generally causes people to just love you. Did you know kindness is contagious? That person you let through in traffic is more likely to do the same for someone else. THIS is what really matters.
Here's where I'm going to sound like a hypocrite, but bear with me now. Just because appearance is not the most important thing, it doesn't mean you should not care about it at all. It's important to look your best for one main reason-- it shows you care about yourself. Looking your best does not mean you have to be thin or caked in make-up. Looking your best means taking care of the body you have and dressing to best suit it. Don't exercise to be thin-- exercise to be healthy. Don't wear make up to hide your face-- wear it to accent the goods you have. Don't wear clothes that hang off your body, thinking that it hides you; what it really does is make you look like you are being swallowed and it shows the world you lack self confidence. Dressing appropriately will only boost your confidence-- I promise you that. Treat yourself with respect!
In short, be kind to yourself and be kind to others. This is what makes you beautiful.
It's all about appearance. At least, that's what society tries to tell us. While I agree appearance is important-- it's not everything. The world we live in today is so focused on what we look like that we've lost sight of what really matters-- what's inside of you.
You should always be kind, give more than you take, smile a lot, hold the door open for a stranger. Pay it forward. Being a good person generally causes people to just love you. Did you know kindness is contagious? That person you let through in traffic is more likely to do the same for someone else. THIS is what really matters.
Here's where I'm going to sound like a hypocrite, but bear with me now. Just because appearance is not the most important thing, it doesn't mean you should not care about it at all. It's important to look your best for one main reason-- it shows you care about yourself. Looking your best does not mean you have to be thin or caked in make-up. Looking your best means taking care of the body you have and dressing to best suit it. Don't exercise to be thin-- exercise to be healthy. Don't wear make up to hide your face-- wear it to accent the goods you have. Don't wear clothes that hang off your body, thinking that it hides you; what it really does is make you look like you are being swallowed and it shows the world you lack self confidence. Dressing appropriately will only boost your confidence-- I promise you that. Treat yourself with respect!
In short, be kind to yourself and be kind to others. This is what makes you beautiful.
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
A rose by any other name...
Here I am-- exactly where I thought I never would be-- in the blogging world. Blogs to me have always been a touchy subject because of one simple fact: Words, once printed, gain a life of their own. This is exactly why I've decided this fact of life be a big part of my new blog, as my header. A dark reminder that, no matter what, you can't take it back. You can edit it, change it, delete it, deny it-- but someone out there knows the truth.
With that said, I've decided my desire to share the thoughts boiling over inside my head far outweighs my fears of said thoughts being used against me.
I may inspire you. I may perplex you. I may outright offend you. But I assure you, I will keep those rusty gears turning and never cease to entertain.
~Scarlet
With that said, I've decided my desire to share the thoughts boiling over inside my head far outweighs my fears of said thoughts being used against me.
I may inspire you. I may perplex you. I may outright offend you. But I assure you, I will keep those rusty gears turning and never cease to entertain.
~Scarlet
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